Most of the time when I'm concentrating in something, such as writing poems or working on certain kinds of writing (including quotes), I prefer silence or slow music arround me... It's kinda hard for me to keep myself tuned in with what I'm doing if the room is so noisy...
But for other people in my department room, they prefer loud music, and for them, music like that can lift their spirit up, make them more tuned in to work... It's kind of a dilemma...
Lately it's been a kind of struggling to me...
However... I'm trying to do my best and keep patient, keep my emotions in control...
I just wanna write about this... at least I have pouring my unspeakable words to this very faithful blog...
Monday, June 30, 2008
Dating: God's Best or All the Rest?
(By Belinda Elliott)
Sure, maybe he’s not Prince Charming, but he’s a good guy.
Sure, maybe he’s not Prince Charming, but he’s a good guy.
I know he loves me, I just wish he’d treat me better sometimes.
Maybe it’s not the best relationship, but what’s the alternative? No one else is asking me out.
What if I can’t find anyone better? At least I’m not alone.
Ever had these thoughts about someone you are dating? I’ve been there. Too many of my friends are finding themselves there now too. I can’t say that I’m an expert on relationships, but if there is one thing that I feel like God taught me during my dating years (and it took about three years too many for me to learn this) it is that you should never settle for less than God’s best.
I’ve read many books about relationships and Christian dating. My favorite one by far is Choosing God's Best by Don Raunikar. His views helped me establish my own standards regarding marriage. I decided that I wanted nothing less than God’s best for me.
What does that mean?
It means if you have doubts about the relationship, if your significant other doesn’t treat you with the upmost respect, if you argue more than you get along, if you constantly find yourself defending him or her to your friends, then end it. I know that sounds harsh, but let me explain my theory on Christian dating.
I do not believe in “soul mates,” necessarily. But I do believe that if you are seeking God’s will about who you date, He will lead you to someone that is a true fit for you. I don’t mean that your future spouse will be perfect or that you will think alike or always agree on everything. That will never happen. But I do believe that if you seek God’s guidance, He will lead you to the person who is going to be the best match for you. I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us – if we let Him.
I have found this to be true in my own life. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. In fact, most of them had many good qualities. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together. But in each relationship there were things that didn’t feel quite right.
In some relationships, I found myself compromising some of my values to be more in line with that guy’s. In other relationships, I began to think that some of the things I had wanted in a husband were perhaps more wishful thinking than things that could actually be. Did those caring, sensitive, funny, godly men really exist?
For instance, one guy that I dated was a very nice guy. But although he said his faith was important to him, attending church and reading the Bible were not high on his priority list. I had to ask myself, “Is he really on the same page as me when it comes to my Christian faith?” “If we have children, will it be important to him that they are raised by godly principles and involved in church?” It turns out we were not in sync on these issues, and I decided to end the relationship.
Another guy was also an okay “match” in many ways. But I began to notice subtle patterns that bothered me. His job often seemed more important to him than our relationship, and he would repeatedly put friends or family before me. For someone whose “love language” is spending quality time together, that was a major issue. When friends began to point out other red flags about our relationship, I took some time to seriously seek God’s will on the matter.
I’d been struggling with making a decision about this particular relationship for at least a year. I truly wanted to do what I felt was God’s will, but I also really didn’t want to give up the relationship. It wasn’t until I was fully ready to obey God’s leading, that the answer came. Once I took my fingers out of my ears and agreed to truly hear what God had to say, His answer was quite clear. “No, this is not the one for you.” After that I made the difficult decision to break up with the guy.
Does it hurt to end a relationship? Of course it does. It’s not easy to break up with someone that you have grown close to. But I’m convinced it is much less hurtful than spending your life being miserable in a marriage.
After that relationship, I had come to the end of my dating rope. “I don’t want to fall in love with anyone else until it is ‘the right one,’” I told God. Since I had not done such a great job of choosing relationships on my own, I decided to let God choose the next one. I wouldn’t even consider dating again until I had sought His will about the person and the relationship.
It was after this that God began unfolding the events that led me to start dating Matt, the man that would become my husband. We had met in college and built a solid friendship through the years, but I had not considered him in a romantic way (although he repeatedly let me know that he was somewhat interested in me).
However, once I put God in charge of my love life, a funny thing happened. I began to see in Matt several of those “husband material traits” that I had been searching for with other guys. I ran down the partial list in my head and realized they were all there.
Godly, Christian man? Check.
Capable of being the spiritual leader in the relationship? Check.
Sensitive? Caring? Funny? Check, check, check!
As I began to observe his life and how he interacted with others, as well as how wonderfully he always treated me, I decided that there could really be something here. As I prayed about it, I felt like God gave me permission to pursue it. Later on, when I prayed about the possibility of marriage, God answered that prayer clearly too. The rest is history. We dated for about 10 months before he proposed.
And now, after nearly four years of marriage I am so glad I followed God’s leading. It’s not that my husband and I never disagree, or that we do not get on each other’s nerves periodically, but married life is so much simpler when you know that this is the person that God led you to. With that in mind, we know God will see us through whatever difficulties we face in the future. And as I look back on past relationships, I can see why Matt and I are the best match compared to others we each dated.
Don’t get me wrong, you could probably make your current relationship work. I believe that there are any number of people that we each could marry and make it work – and even be happy. But I also believe that we will be happiest in marriage if we allow God to choose our mate for us. That doesn’t mean waiting for God to drop that person into your lap, or waiting for a flashing neon sign to blink over his or her head identifying that person as “the one.” Instead, it means taking each relationship to God and asking, “Where do You want this relationship to go?”
And the next step is just as important, are you truly willing to abide by God’s answer?
If God’s will is for you to be married, then I believe He wants you to have the best marriage possible. You deserve someone who will appreciate you for who God made you to be, encourage you to grow spiritually and embrace all that God has for you, and cherish you as a precious gift from your Heavenly Father. Don’t settle for less than that.
The question I've posed to my friends lately, and the one I would ask of all Christian singles, is this: Are you willing to wait for God’s best or are you simply settling for all the rest?
Sumber: cbn
Saturday, June 28, 2008
Relationship 'n Gambar Diri
Hubungannya? Banyak! Just like it said that "As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend." (Proverbs 27:17 - NKJV)
Dalam hubungan kita ama orang laen (note that "relationship" I'm talking about here is in general, not only a relationship between man and woman), makin deket kita ama mereka, makin besar kemungkinan konflik 'n gesekan yang terjadi. Konflik itu bisa jadi karna perbedaan persepsi, cara pandang, kebiasaan, etika, dan laennya. Ada konflik-konflik yang umum, tapi ada juga konflik yang menyinggung gambar diri... That's why aku bilang kalo relationship itu bisa menguji gambar diri.
Tiga taun lalu aku mulai berteman ama seorang cewek. Beda umur kita jauh, dia lebih tua sekitar 14 taunan gitu... tapi ga tau knapa sampe sekarang masih nyambung hehehe... Awalnya ga gampang juga... soalnya selaen beda umur jauh, ada beda-beda yang laen termasuk beda karakter. Dia extrovert (maybe koleris-melankolis), aku introvert (melankolis-phlegmatis). Dari situ aja banyak konflik yang terjadi. Emang siy kita ga sempet sampe yang marahan ngambek yang gimana gitu... tapi pernah ada saat-saat dimana aku ngerasa udah ga tahan temenan deket ama dia, coz dia sering mengkoreksi aku. Kadang emang koreksinya netral, emang demi kebaikanku, tapi yang bikin aku ga tahan itu koreksinya yang emang karna aku beda ama dia (terutama dari karater tadi itu). Aku ngerasa dia pengen aku kayak dia, lebih extrovert, lebih gini, lebih gitu, jangan gini, jangan gitu... Pernah ada puisi yang aku tulis pas waktu aku ngerasa dah cape banget temenan ama dia di blog ini hehehe... di halaman belakang banget kayaknya.
Tapi... entah kita jadi nyambung lagi... mungkin karna kita sama-sama bertahan 'n latian sabar satu sama laen... Ayat itu terbukti kok pada akhirnya hehehe... Sekarang dah ga ada lagi koreksi-koreksi yang menyakitkan buat aku coz dia akhirnya mengakui kalo aku emang beda 'n perbedaan yang aku punya itu berguna, salah satunya dia ngakuin aku itu pendengar yang baek hehehe... Jadinya kita akur deh... Tapi dulu pas masih ada konflik-konflik gitu sering aku ngerasa kata-kata dia nyinggung gambar diriku.
Hubungan deket kedua yang juga sempet bikin aku meragukan gambar diri barusan aku lalui. It's not easy though, coz aku ga yakin apakah ini something (ada beberapa hal siy bukan cuman satu) yang emang seharusnya aku ubah (coz kayaknya kalo diubah jadinya bukan gue banget, kayak berpura-pura jadi orang laen) demi kebaikanku ataukah ini something yang dia tegur semata-mata karna selera dia yang beda ama seleraku. Coz jujur perkataan orang ini nyakitin aku.
So I asked God how can I handle this... gimana cara pandang yang bener... gimana menurut Dia tentang ini... Step by step... I'm getting to know and see it clearer... And all I can say is... ga semua koreksi dari orang itu 100% bener atau 100% salah. People's words are simply show us about them (their views, their likes and dislikes, their moods etc). But sometimes God can use their words to make us reflect to ourselves... Dia mengijinkan kata-kata yang mungkin menyakitkan buat kita (karna menyinggung gambar diri kita) untuk menguji apakah gambar diri kita sudah kokoh berakar di dalam Dia atau belum...
Look at back then... I realize that what it said in Rome 8:28 ("And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to [His] purpose") is true. Mengutip perkataan Pak Pati Ginting dari bukunya "Semua Hal Ada Dasarnya", emang ga semua hal yang terjadi di dunia ini sesuai ama rancangan awalNya, tapi dalam semua hal yang Dia ijinkan terjadi, Dia ikut campur tangan untuk kebaikan kita.
The key is to be open and honest with Him... It's okay to tell Him that their words hurt you, but don't stop right there. Let Him shape you and make you stronger in Him through all that you've been through... Jiayou ^.^
Dalam hubungan kita ama orang laen (note that "relationship" I'm talking about here is in general, not only a relationship between man and woman), makin deket kita ama mereka, makin besar kemungkinan konflik 'n gesekan yang terjadi. Konflik itu bisa jadi karna perbedaan persepsi, cara pandang, kebiasaan, etika, dan laennya. Ada konflik-konflik yang umum, tapi ada juga konflik yang menyinggung gambar diri... That's why aku bilang kalo relationship itu bisa menguji gambar diri.
Tiga taun lalu aku mulai berteman ama seorang cewek. Beda umur kita jauh, dia lebih tua sekitar 14 taunan gitu... tapi ga tau knapa sampe sekarang masih nyambung hehehe... Awalnya ga gampang juga... soalnya selaen beda umur jauh, ada beda-beda yang laen termasuk beda karakter. Dia extrovert (maybe koleris-melankolis), aku introvert (melankolis-phlegmatis). Dari situ aja banyak konflik yang terjadi. Emang siy kita ga sempet sampe yang marahan ngambek yang gimana gitu... tapi pernah ada saat-saat dimana aku ngerasa udah ga tahan temenan deket ama dia, coz dia sering mengkoreksi aku. Kadang emang koreksinya netral, emang demi kebaikanku, tapi yang bikin aku ga tahan itu koreksinya yang emang karna aku beda ama dia (terutama dari karater tadi itu). Aku ngerasa dia pengen aku kayak dia, lebih extrovert, lebih gini, lebih gitu, jangan gini, jangan gitu... Pernah ada puisi yang aku tulis pas waktu aku ngerasa dah cape banget temenan ama dia di blog ini hehehe... di halaman belakang banget kayaknya.
Tapi... entah kita jadi nyambung lagi... mungkin karna kita sama-sama bertahan 'n latian sabar satu sama laen... Ayat itu terbukti kok pada akhirnya hehehe... Sekarang dah ga ada lagi koreksi-koreksi yang menyakitkan buat aku coz dia akhirnya mengakui kalo aku emang beda 'n perbedaan yang aku punya itu berguna, salah satunya dia ngakuin aku itu pendengar yang baek hehehe... Jadinya kita akur deh... Tapi dulu pas masih ada konflik-konflik gitu sering aku ngerasa kata-kata dia nyinggung gambar diriku.
Hubungan deket kedua yang juga sempet bikin aku meragukan gambar diri barusan aku lalui. It's not easy though, coz aku ga yakin apakah ini something (ada beberapa hal siy bukan cuman satu) yang emang seharusnya aku ubah (coz kayaknya kalo diubah jadinya bukan gue banget, kayak berpura-pura jadi orang laen) demi kebaikanku ataukah ini something yang dia tegur semata-mata karna selera dia yang beda ama seleraku. Coz jujur perkataan orang ini nyakitin aku.
So I asked God how can I handle this... gimana cara pandang yang bener... gimana menurut Dia tentang ini... Step by step... I'm getting to know and see it clearer... And all I can say is... ga semua koreksi dari orang itu 100% bener atau 100% salah. People's words are simply show us about them (their views, their likes and dislikes, their moods etc). But sometimes God can use their words to make us reflect to ourselves... Dia mengijinkan kata-kata yang mungkin menyakitkan buat kita (karna menyinggung gambar diri kita) untuk menguji apakah gambar diri kita sudah kokoh berakar di dalam Dia atau belum...
Look at back then... I realize that what it said in Rome 8:28 ("And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to [His] purpose") is true. Mengutip perkataan Pak Pati Ginting dari bukunya "Semua Hal Ada Dasarnya", emang ga semua hal yang terjadi di dunia ini sesuai ama rancangan awalNya, tapi dalam semua hal yang Dia ijinkan terjadi, Dia ikut campur tangan untuk kebaikan kita.
The key is to be open and honest with Him... It's okay to tell Him that their words hurt you, but don't stop right there. Let Him shape you and make you stronger in Him through all that you've been through... Jiayou ^.^
Today is a Gift: 10 Reasons to Love Your Life Today
Yesterday’s the past, tomorrow’s the future, but today is a gift. That’s why it’s called the present.
(Bil Keane)
Today is a gift. We have all the reasons to be excited about today, but too often we forget about it. We may end up complaining and feel bad about today. Don’t let it happen. Let’s count your blessings and see why you should love your life today:
1. Today you are healthy
We are so used to being healthy that we forget how good being healthy is. Sometimes we need to be sick to appreciate the blessing of being healthy.
2. Today you have someone who loves you
Being lonely is terrible. Today, if you have someone who loves you, you have something more valuable than wealth.
3. Today you have opportunity to love
Not only do you have someone who loves you, today you also have the opportunity to love them - and other people - back.
4. Today you have good meals to eat
If you can eat a good meal today, just remember that many people can’t. Many people struggle to eat even once a day.
5. Today you have a job
Many people are jobless. If you aren’t, you have a reason to be excited about your work.
6. Today you live in peace
I just can’t imagine living in the midst of war. Fear and terror will always haunt me. I could lose the people I love anytime. I could even lose my life.
7. Today you have clean air to breathe
You don’t have to wear a mask, do you? Many people in the world must. In some parts of the world the air quality is so bad people can no longer breathe freely.
8. Today you are safe
You can go to the places you want without worrying that something bad will happen to you. That’s something to be grateful for.
9. Today you have opportunity to give
Giving is among the best ways to increase your happiness and today you have the opportunity to give.
10. Today is a new day
Forget the past. Forget yesterday. Today you have the opportunity to begin anew.
Sumber:
http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/25/today-is-a-gift-10-reasons-to-love-your-life-today/
Thursday, June 26, 2008
Love and Hate
"It's not enough for a gardener to love the flowers, but he must also hate the weeds."
Love His truth.. Hate the evil's lies
Love His commands by obeying them.. because even when they don't feel enjoyable, they were made for our safety and our happiness
Hate evil's persuasions by ignoring them.. because even when they do feel exciting, they were made for his pleasure and our misery.. to take us down with him..
It's not enough for us to love God, but we must also hate evil.
Love His truth.. Hate the evil's lies
Love His commands by obeying them.. because even when they don't feel enjoyable, they were made for our safety and our happiness
Hate evil's persuasions by ignoring them.. because even when they do feel exciting, they were made for his pleasure and our misery.. to take us down with him..
It's not enough for us to love God, but we must also hate evil.
Wednesday, June 25, 2008
Keunikan 'n Spesifikasi Khusus
Another meaningful lesson from "Kungfu Panda" movie:
Benih pohon cherry teuteup bakal jadi pohon cherry, ga peduli seberapa besarnya kita berharap benih itu bakal tumbuh jadi pohon apel atau pohon jeruk.
Itu omongan Master Oogway ke Master Shifu, sebelon Master Oogway terangkat ama daun-daun pink... waktu Master Shifu mempertanyakan soal si Poo (Kungfu Panda).
Simple tapi dalem... Khususnya buat ortu kali yah... coz masih banyak ortu yang bukannya berusaha mengenali benih apa yang Tuhan titipin ke mereka, tapi malah memaksakan harapan mereka sendiri ke benih itu. Padahal yang ciptain benih itu kan Tuhan, Dia yang ngasih setiap anak kemampuan, talenta, dan keunikan-keunikan lain yang memungkinkan anak itu untuk menggenapi tujuanNya yang spesifik atas keberadaan anak itu di dunia. Dia yang punya rencana, dan setiap anak itu adalah milikNya. Bagian orang tua adalah mengenali keunikan anak mereka (mengenali benih) 'n membantu sebisa mungkin mengembangkan sampai ke potensi maksimalnya.
Di "Kungfu Panda" movie, ini ditunjukin ama pengakuan Master Shifu ke Poo, waktu dia bilang something like this, "Waktu kamu konsen ke kungfu, kamu gagal. Tapi mungkin ini juga salahku, aku ga bisa melatih kamu sama seperti aku melatih 5 pendekar yang lain. Sekarang aku tau bahwa cara untuk melatih kamu adalah melalui makanan..." sambil nunjukin semangkok bakpao yang menggiurkan ituh... (jadi inget bakpao Chik Yen... slurp... hueee... pengen bakpao kacang tanahnya Chik Yen... ok back to the topic =p)
Dan akhirnya kan beneran kebukti, setelah Master Shi Fu memperlakukan Poo dengan spesifik sesuai keunikannya, melatihnya ke arah destiny-nya (to become the dragon warrior), Poo akhirnya berhasil ngalahin Tai Lung.
Sebenernya ini juga ga terbatas cuman bisa diterapin antara ortu ama anaknya juga siy, tapi bisa juga antara guru ama murid, antara pimpinan ama bawahan yang dia pimpin... coz untuk mengerjakan something spesific secara maksimal itu butuh orang dengan spesifikasi khusus juga.
Misalnya, orang yang tipe rame 'n marketing abis, trus bukan tipe orang yang organized gituh, kalo disuruh duduk diem ngerjain administrasi atau keuangan pasti dia bisa stress 'n performa kerjanya ga bagus. Bukan karna dia emang parah atau ga pinter, tapi karna bidang kerjanya ga sesuai ama spesifikasi dia (potensi dan keunikan dia). Coba ditempatin di kerjaan yang cocok, pasti bisa maksimal, tinggal diasah 'n perbanyak pengalaman. Sebaliknya, kalo tipe orang yang organized, yang ga terlalu banyak ngomong, yang suka nulis, disuruh cuap-cuap jadi bagian marketing atau MC, bukannya ga bisa, bisa siy bisa, tapi pasti ga bisa maksimal kayak orang yang emang potensinya di situ. Tapi kalo dia jadi penulis atau apapun yang sesuai ama spesifikasinya, pasti bisa maksimal 'n sukses. Kalo hasil "penempatan" yang ga cocok itu cuman bikin frustasi kedua belah pihak, then maybe it's about time to do things in the right way ;-p
Ini juga bisa diterapin di persahabatan atau relationship juga. If we want to help and maximize other people, we shouldn't force them to fulfill our expectations. Mereka adalah benih-benih unik yang diciptain Tuhan. Garis-garis di batang pohon aja ga ada yang sama persis satu ama yang laen, karakter binatang aja ga ada yang sama persis, apalagi manusia yang onderdilnya jauh jauhhhhhh lebih complicated daripada taneman atau binatang. Kalo kita emang bener-bener mau memaksimalkan orang lain, hal pertama yang sangat masuk akal buat dilakuin adalah mengenali keunikannya, mengenali potensinya, bakatnya, passion-nya... Coz semua itu udah ditaruh Tuhan di masing-masing kita. Kalo itu udah dikenalin, bakal lebih gampang buat bantu mengasah 'n najeminnya. Yang ngebantu 'n yang dibantu sama-sama seneng kan? Ga ada yang frustasi karna pemaksaan =p Win win solution hehehe...
And... as we know this truth, there's no reason to be jealous of other's uniqueness. Cause you are unique in your own way, each of us have a different kind of uniqueness. Kita kudu sama-sama ask God 'n belajar mengenali diri sendiri juga, buat tau benih apa yang Tuhan taruh dalam diri kita. Coz ga semua orang bertumbuh di lingkungan yang mendukung perkembangan keunikannya. Masih ada orang-orang, keluarga, 'n lingkungan yang ga ngerti kenyataan tentang "benih" ini. And the most trusted One to guide us is Himself, our Creator, who had put the seed in us... ;-)
Benih pohon cherry teuteup bakal jadi pohon cherry, ga peduli seberapa besarnya kita berharap benih itu bakal tumbuh jadi pohon apel atau pohon jeruk.
Itu omongan Master Oogway ke Master Shifu, sebelon Master Oogway terangkat ama daun-daun pink... waktu Master Shifu mempertanyakan soal si Poo (Kungfu Panda).
Simple tapi dalem... Khususnya buat ortu kali yah... coz masih banyak ortu yang bukannya berusaha mengenali benih apa yang Tuhan titipin ke mereka, tapi malah memaksakan harapan mereka sendiri ke benih itu. Padahal yang ciptain benih itu kan Tuhan, Dia yang ngasih setiap anak kemampuan, talenta, dan keunikan-keunikan lain yang memungkinkan anak itu untuk menggenapi tujuanNya yang spesifik atas keberadaan anak itu di dunia. Dia yang punya rencana, dan setiap anak itu adalah milikNya. Bagian orang tua adalah mengenali keunikan anak mereka (mengenali benih) 'n membantu sebisa mungkin mengembangkan sampai ke potensi maksimalnya.
Di "Kungfu Panda" movie, ini ditunjukin ama pengakuan Master Shifu ke Poo, waktu dia bilang something like this, "Waktu kamu konsen ke kungfu, kamu gagal. Tapi mungkin ini juga salahku, aku ga bisa melatih kamu sama seperti aku melatih 5 pendekar yang lain. Sekarang aku tau bahwa cara untuk melatih kamu adalah melalui makanan..." sambil nunjukin semangkok bakpao yang menggiurkan ituh... (jadi inget bakpao Chik Yen... slurp... hueee... pengen bakpao kacang tanahnya Chik Yen... ok back to the topic =p)
Dan akhirnya kan beneran kebukti, setelah Master Shi Fu memperlakukan Poo dengan spesifik sesuai keunikannya, melatihnya ke arah destiny-nya (to become the dragon warrior), Poo akhirnya berhasil ngalahin Tai Lung.
Sebenernya ini juga ga terbatas cuman bisa diterapin antara ortu ama anaknya juga siy, tapi bisa juga antara guru ama murid, antara pimpinan ama bawahan yang dia pimpin... coz untuk mengerjakan something spesific secara maksimal itu butuh orang dengan spesifikasi khusus juga.
Misalnya, orang yang tipe rame 'n marketing abis, trus bukan tipe orang yang organized gituh, kalo disuruh duduk diem ngerjain administrasi atau keuangan pasti dia bisa stress 'n performa kerjanya ga bagus. Bukan karna dia emang parah atau ga pinter, tapi karna bidang kerjanya ga sesuai ama spesifikasi dia (potensi dan keunikan dia). Coba ditempatin di kerjaan yang cocok, pasti bisa maksimal, tinggal diasah 'n perbanyak pengalaman. Sebaliknya, kalo tipe orang yang organized, yang ga terlalu banyak ngomong, yang suka nulis, disuruh cuap-cuap jadi bagian marketing atau MC, bukannya ga bisa, bisa siy bisa, tapi pasti ga bisa maksimal kayak orang yang emang potensinya di situ. Tapi kalo dia jadi penulis atau apapun yang sesuai ama spesifikasinya, pasti bisa maksimal 'n sukses. Kalo hasil "penempatan" yang ga cocok itu cuman bikin frustasi kedua belah pihak, then maybe it's about time to do things in the right way ;-p
Ini juga bisa diterapin di persahabatan atau relationship juga. If we want to help and maximize other people, we shouldn't force them to fulfill our expectations. Mereka adalah benih-benih unik yang diciptain Tuhan. Garis-garis di batang pohon aja ga ada yang sama persis satu ama yang laen, karakter binatang aja ga ada yang sama persis, apalagi manusia yang onderdilnya jauh jauhhhhhh lebih complicated daripada taneman atau binatang. Kalo kita emang bener-bener mau memaksimalkan orang lain, hal pertama yang sangat masuk akal buat dilakuin adalah mengenali keunikannya, mengenali potensinya, bakatnya, passion-nya... Coz semua itu udah ditaruh Tuhan di masing-masing kita. Kalo itu udah dikenalin, bakal lebih gampang buat bantu mengasah 'n najeminnya. Yang ngebantu 'n yang dibantu sama-sama seneng kan? Ga ada yang frustasi karna pemaksaan =p Win win solution hehehe...
And... as we know this truth, there's no reason to be jealous of other's uniqueness. Cause you are unique in your own way, each of us have a different kind of uniqueness. Kita kudu sama-sama ask God 'n belajar mengenali diri sendiri juga, buat tau benih apa yang Tuhan taruh dalam diri kita. Coz ga semua orang bertumbuh di lingkungan yang mendukung perkembangan keunikannya. Masih ada orang-orang, keluarga, 'n lingkungan yang ga ngerti kenyataan tentang "benih" ini. And the most trusted One to guide us is Himself, our Creator, who had put the seed in us... ;-)
Iseng
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